Weekly Adventures and Ponderings along the Way

Please join me on my weekly adventures as a busy mom, wife, adventurer, and business woman. My life is always on the go. It gets hectic, crazy but also filled with a lot of love, passion and excitement along the way. This is my life, and I want to share my adventures, experiences, thoughts with you as a way to connect. Please feel free to leave a comment. I love hearing from you and I’ll reach back out to you!

I’m sharing a weekly adventure big or small that I’ve had each week, to help keep you motivated on having your own adventures. Adventures also give lots of good insights and realizations so as inspiration I’ll be sharing those throughout the week.

If there’s anything you would like me to write about, please drop me a line. I’m happy to support you in your adventures!

Want to live life on your terms?? Here are the five things to kick start the life you are really wanting to live.

When we look at our life, we all want freedom, and maybe some adventure to go along with it. But how do we step out of the grind and struggle of the day to actually make the things we want happen in our day?? What do we do to make the life we would love to live a reality? This doesn’t necessarily mean living the luxury lifestyle, although it is nice, and really who wouldn’t?? I’m talking more about what lights you up in your life, what excites you, what will make you jump out of bed in the morning? This is really living life on your terms. Living life on your terms is about listening to yourself, what is right for your life, being clear about the decisions you make, making decisions that will at the end of the day, also benefit the ones you love. Our lives will take us to amazing places, adventure, luxury lifestyle, whatever it is you want, when we focus on what is healthy in our lives, and what is honestly, just not working anymore.

Here are the top five ways to start making your life happen for you, not just to you……

  1. Listen to yourself! There is no better way to know what you are meant to do with your life than what is inside you. I’m sure you’ve heard this a million times, but our soul, our gut feeling, never lies. It is all about tapping into what we are really saying inside and gaining the deep knowing of what we are meant for. Getting outdoors, meditation, stillness and quiet by yourself are the best ways to go inside and listen. Take fifteen minutes out of your day and spend it with yourself, in a place that brings you comfort and peace. Daily practice of reflection will help you move from the outer expectations of life to the inner truth of how you are meant to live your life.                                                                                                                                                                                  
  2. Do something you love. It is so easy to get wrapped up in the daily responsibilities and responsibilities of our life, that by the end of the day, we have forgotten about ourselves. If you are going to live on your terms, you are going to need to do something different. This doesn’t need to be about spending large amounts of time on this, but it is about prioritizing and focusing on even one thing a day that you love, that lights you up, that makes the day worthwhile. You are also a priority in your life. As you find that you are spending time on yourself, it will be easier to start looking at the larger parts of your life that you may want to make changes to. You are feeling good taking care of you each day. Let that spread into other parts of your life that you can take better care of for yourself as well.
  1. Expectations are just that. Expectations. They are not needs. They are not requirements. They are things people put on us in hopes we will follow their desires. The danger comes in when we associate other’s desires with a need. A need is not an expectation, so don’t live as if they are. Look at the expectations in your life that aren’t healthy or working for you and look at who or what they are really serving. Is there anything positive about following someone else’s expectation? Are you doing something just to appease them, so they don’t get upset, disappointed, annoyed, etc? If so, take a hard look at why you give into this pressure and what life would look like if you didn’t give in to their wants. Are you being hurt by giving into their expectations, what about other family members? There is always a cost associated with the giving of an expectation. You need to decide if that cost is too high. Living life on your terms is about keeping cost low, and positivity in life high.
  1. Creating what you love! This is about making that passion, or love into something that you make time for in your life. It is about knowing that this thing is important, that it may help or positively impact other people, that I become a better person by doing this activity. If it fits these criteria, then this is what you need to be spending time doing in your life. It may not be about putting all else aside in your life, but it is about putting this as a necessity in your life. What you are a better person through what you do, you elevate everyone else around you. You make your life and everyone else’s life better. This is what is meant by living on your terms!
  1. Love! I think this says it all, but since this is a blog, I will expand. Focusing and falling in love with our life, focusing on the positive people around you, showing them love, loving the things you are doing in your day, shower love to those in need, showering love in the way you create, give, offer to the world will only spread and expand the love that is available to everyone.

Living life on your terms is all about spreading love, elevating yourself and everyone else around you and helping to make everyone’s life better. It’s time to go out and start living life on your terms!

 

Imagine Your Life without an “If”

Today I heard someone say that the word “if” is the most disturbing word. Although I’m not sure that I would agree that “if” is the most disturbing word, I did get her point. The point she was making was beyond just regret, but about the choices we make in our life. I could bust out into the Dave Matthews song right now about taking a left turn instead of taking a right, but I’ll spare you my lack of singing skills.

The point is all about how we need to take a closer look at our decisions in life, before we make them. We need to look inside ourselves, really get to know what it is that is right for our lives. It’s about taking that decision ahead of you and being clear about the impact each side would have on your life, and which side is the healthier option.

Of course, we can never 100% know how one decision will pan out over a long period of time, but it is about how we can go about making the best decision we can for ourselves without getting swept up in expectations, promises, fear. When we step away from the decision, give ourselves some space to walk in nature, go somewhere calming, a place you love, we can balance ourselves, go inside and look at the decision for what it is. It’s like tearing the layers away and really taking a clear look at what is presented to you.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself.

  • When you look at your current life, and what you would really love your life to look like, does either side of this decision seem the best to you?
  • Is there one side that sits comfortably in your gut, or one that makes you feel tension inside?
  • When you cut back the expectations or fear that may be circulating, which side of the decision do you see long lasting? The disappointment of others is short lived in comparison to the consequences of continuing to live in a decision you regret.

When you make a decision that you know deep inside, is the right one for you, the challenges, struggles you may encounter will be easier to overcome as you have grounded yourself in the deep knowing of what is truly right for your life.

You will continue to come back to yourself and connect with that deep knowing that is inside you about what is right for your life. Each time it will become easier and easier to do this, and to clear out any distractions keeping you from your authentic path.

Deep listening and connecting with the truth about what is right for your life will keep you never having to “IF” yourself ever again.

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How You Fall Wildly In Love With Your Life While Living Life On Your Terms

Living life on your terms is all about how you can live the best, most authentic life possible. It is about knowing what is healthy for your life, and what isn’t and then following this knowing. When you are living life on your terms, you are creating your life from a place of love, service, and of course joy! This is about elevating your life to a place that you can be of greatest good in this world, and in turn, benefiting everyone else around you. When you are truly listening to yourself and are in alignment with who you are and what you are meant to be doing, your life blossoms into something greater than you could have imagined. It is all because you are listening to yourself.

Listening to yourself is the first step in knowing exactly what is right for your life and what it is that you are supposed to be doing. Get out in nature, adventure, listen to yourself and listen to what truths arise within you. This is where the deep knowing of our intuition, our soul happens. This is how we know that what our soul is telling us is truth and we must listen. When we make changes that are healthy for our lives, we hold onto these truths when things get tough, or we want to turn back. We don’t let others, situations deter us from what we know is right. We follow the path that we know will lead the the greatest good in our life and in other’s lives as well. When we elevate our lives, we elevate everyone else around us as well.

As we start making these changes in our life, we can only but live in joy. Joy follows what we know is true for us. When we are making conscientious decisions about what we know our lives are meant to look like, we are able to get back to our natural state more quickly. Our natural state is joy, love, happiness. This natural state is to spread around and let others feel and be surrounded by our love.

Our state of joy, love and happiness is the tracker telling us how on course we are in our lives. I’m talking about the internal joy of our lives, not just by winning the lottery, but hey, wouldn’t that be nice too! Listen and follow your joy.  What is it that really lights you up inside? What makes you so excited to be doing, helping? This is what you are meant for in your life. Look how you can add more of this to your life.

Create the conditions that make you want to jump out of bed each morning, following your joy, following your deeper meaning to your life. Listen to yourself and what is right. Listen to how you are meant to live your life. Your life is meant to be lived in your truest, most authentic way possible. It’s time to make your life happen for you. It’s time to get up, get out in nature, listen to your deeper knowing and make this life one that you fall wildly in love with!

 

The Power Of Living Life On Your Terms

We all have different ideas, beliefs about how we want to live our lives, but the one similarity is that we all want to live in a way that makes us happy. We all have the right and ability to live a life we love. Sometimes life circumstances, poor decisions, unexpected situations arise in all of our lives and this causes us to get thrown off course from the life that we are truly meant to be living.

It is easy to feel like you’ve become stuck in situations that no longer work for you, or have become unhealthy. It may feel like you’ve been held hostage in an alternate reality than the one that you are supposed to be living. Your captor is the inability to see options for your life. 

Your power lies in breaking free from this captor and stepping into the real purpose of your life. Your current life circumstance holds so tight, but when you take a step away it only becomes a facade. The bonds that you thought were so tight were not bonds at all. We sometimes bond ourselves to the illusion that there are really no options, that we aren’t strong enough to make necessary changes or that we will fail at reaching for what we want.

As you start to take small, incremental steps towards the things you want in your life and away from the things you don’t want, you will begin to build up the strength and courage that maybe you didn’t realize you had. The things that you think are going to be so difficult become easily managed through consistent movement towards what you do want. You will begin to see that your true life is in your grasp. 

Your power lies in your ability to see that you are a strong, resilient and capable woman that KNOWS that your life is meant to be lived on your terms.  When you realize that we are all that woman, we are able to do and accomplish amazing things in our lives. We are able to live without the strain of being held back by negative influences, situations, people. We know we are more powerful than that and it is about listening to our inner voice about what is right for our lives and what will not serve us well in our life. 

Our power lies in listening to that voice inside of us. The intuition, feeling, belief that we carry with us, that is often dismissed because we pay too much attention to the outer world. The inner world is the only true compass for our lives. When we hone into and focus on what is right for our life, we have tapped into the most internally powerful tool that we carry with us. 

Your power is your internal voice that shows you the strength reserve you are always carrying with you and can access at any time to start living life on your terms! 

 

Slowing Down On The Trail

I honestly had no idea what I was getting into when I decided to sign up for a trip to the Everest Base Camp. This had been a goal of mine for half my life. There was the elusiveness and beauty of the Himalayas that I couldn’t deny. I had trained, bought non-refundable tickets and obsessed over the packing. It was my time to go.

I wasn’t exactly sure what trekking in the Himalayas at such altitude was like. I was excited to have my first experience in high altitude and to be around the tallest mountains in the world. I was finally going to see first hand the mountains I spent so much of my life staring at in books and magazines. It seemed surreal that it was finally happening. There was nothing that could have prepared me for the richness of the experience.

#Trekking #Nepal #Himalayas #steepslope #snow #TheBrazenAdventuress #mountains #adventure

As our flight took off through Himalayan mountain passes on our way to Lukla, the “gateway to Everest”, I was first gripped by the reality of the situation I got myself into. Our guide told us we would be trekking much higher than the plane was flying. I quickly realized that modest mountains of the northeast were no comparison to the Himalayas. I wasn’t quite sure what to expect, but this certainly wasn’t it. I quickly wanted the plane to turn back around to Kathmandu, but this wasn’t an option. I was committed.

After our stop at a tea house to check over gear, we were on our way. The trail led through small local villages and small fields where families worked. Quickly the trail started to lead upward, passing over rushing water of the river below, way below.  Only slabs of wood, wire and rope, and of course, prayer flags kept us from peril. Looking up, the green, lush landscape slowly turned to coarse rock, snow and ice. Each stopping point gave us a greater view of how low we actually were and how much higher we had to go. The height we still had to climb, coupled with the lack of oxygen made base camp just seem like an improbable destination. Our group joked that there is no such thing as ‘down hill’ in Nepal. I’m sure this is true!

#Nepal #Himalaya #DudhKosiRiver #river #rushingwater #bridge #TheBrazenAdventuress

 

As the air became thinner, our walking (and talking of course!) became slower. Our pace slowed to what seemed a crawl. I had no idea I could actually walk this slow. On one of our many rest breaks, our guide had pointed upwards to where we were going to stop for lunch that day. It was about three hill traverses upward. The distance seemed like it would take us all day at best.

The doubt of my abilities started to creep in. I had no idea how it would be plausible to do this length of distance, upward and in altitude by lunch.  Our guide assured us that this wouldn’t be a problem and we would easily get there in time for our daal and tea. So on we went. One step, then another and then a few more, and then stop to catch our breath. The slow, rhythmic pace continued on for most of the morning. Then there were no more hill traverses, only the rhythm of our steps to our breath.

#Himalayas #clouds #blue sky #Nepal #TheBrazenAdventuress #Trekking #hiking #adventure #mountains #snow

Trekking Above The Clouds

Out of nowhere, tucked away on the mountain side, emerged a tea house and a small village. Our cups flowed with Darjeeling tea and our legs got a rest.  Sitting, basking in the sun at its height, it was incomprehensible to me that we were able to trek the distance we did, while going so slow. I felt that I accomplished something huge that day, but the biggest lesson I learned was about how slowing down actual help us to move ahead quicker.  Imagine if I hiked faster than my ability, I’d probably be hunched over a rock someplace lower down trying to catch my breath and feeling too exhausted to make it to the tea house.

#Himalayas #Trekking #Bluesky #Nepal #snow #TheBrazenAdventuress #Adventure #Mountains

Living in a world of rush, I couldn’t understand how slow actually got you somewhere. In our western world, fast equates to being first, getting somewhere, or doing something for optimal results Going slow on the other hand usually equates to not getting anywhere or getting anything done. It made me reexamine what slow really means. I could certainly think of more than a few times that I was late, and with my rushing, only slowed me down because I made mistakes or forgot something. There were times when I went too fast or did too much, only to burn myself out and feel frazzled at the end.

As someone that loves Buddhist philosophy and ways of living, I read and studied importance of mindfulness and focusing on the present. I remembered watching a documentary about Thich Nhat Hanh demonstrating the effectiveness of walking meditation and how to do this in our everyday life, not just as a meditation practice. He demonstrated this walking to different destinations in a city and showed how it is possible to be mindful and present even in a city getting from point A to B.  I remember thinking how incredible this was and how it would be amazing to be able to apply this to my life. I never fully grasp this concept and ability to be so fully present in each step until this day. I I like to call it slowing down to speed up. By slowing down our speed in our mind or physically, we are able to speeding up productivity, creativity, but also or amplifying enjoyment out of our experiences in life. It’s about knowing how to not just get through those busy days but in a way that you know you handle.

#Mt.AmaDablam #Nepal #Himalaya #TheBrazenAdventuress #trekking #snow #bluesky #mountains #adventure

In the end, the trip was not about the destination at all. It was about my experience, a trail, and a lesson I needed to learn. The base camp came as an exciting experience, but the true experience was the one I had on the trail.

Slowing Down On The Trail

I honestly had no idea what I was getting into when I decided to sign up for a trip to the Everest Base Camp. This had been a goal of mine for half my life. There was the elusiveness and beauty of the Himalayas that I couldn’t deny. I had trained, bought non-refundable tickets and obsessed over the packing. It was my time to go.

I wasn’t exactly sure what trekking in the Himalayas at such altitude was like. I was excited to have my first experience in high altitude and to be around the tallest mountains in the world. I was finally going to see first hand the mountains I spent so much of my life staring at in books and magazines. It seemed surreal that it was finally happening. There was nothing that could have prepared me for the richness of the experience.

#Trekking #Nepal #Himalayas #steepslope #snow #TheBrazenAdventuress #mountains #adventure

As our flight took off through Himalayan mountain passes on our way to Lukla, the “gateway to Everest”, I was first gripped by the reality of the situation I got myself into. Our guide told us we would be trekking much higher than the plane was flying. I quickly realized that modest mountains of the northeast were no comparison to the Himalayas. I wasn’t quite sure what to expect, but this certainly wasn’t it. I quickly wanted the plane to turn back around to Kathmandu, but this wasn’t an option. I was committed.

After our stop at a tea house to check over gear, we were on our way. The trail led through small local villages and small fields where families worked. Quickly the trail started to lead upward, passing over rushing water of the river below, way below.  Only slabs of wood, wire and rope, and of course, prayer flags kept us from peril. Looking up, the green, lush landscape slowly turned to coarse rock, snow and ice. Each stopping point gave us a greater view of how low we actually were and how much higher we had to go. The height we still had to climb, coupled with the lack of oxygen made base camp just seem like an improbable destination. Our group joked that there is no such thing as ‘down hill’ in Nepal. I’m sure this is true!

#Nepal #Himalaya #DudhKosiRiver #river #rushingwater #bridge #TheBrazenAdventuress

 

As the air became thinner, our walking (and talking of course!) became slower. Our pace slowed to what seemed a crawl. I had no idea I could actually walk this slow. On one of our many rest breaks, our guide had pointed upwards to where we were going to stop for lunch that day. It was about three hill traverses upward. The distance seemed like it would take us all day at best.

The doubt of my abilities started to creep in. I had no idea how it would be plausible to do this length of distance, upward and in altitude by lunch.  Our guide assured us that this wouldn’t be a problem and we would easily get there in time for our daal and tea. So on we went. One step, then another and then a few more, and then stop to catch our breath. The slow, rhythmic pace continued on for most of the morning. Then there were no more hill traverses, only the rhythm of our steps to our breath.

#Himalayas #clouds #blue sky #Nepal #TheBrazenAdventuress #Trekking #hiking #adventure #mountains #snow

Trekking Above The Clouds

Out of nowhere, tucked away on the mountain side, emerged a tea house and a small village. Our cups flowed with Darjeeling tea and our legs got a rest.  Sitting, basking in the sun at its height, it was incomprehensible to me that we were able to trek the distance we did, while going so slow. I felt that I accomplished something huge that day, but the biggest lesson I learned was about how slowing down actual help us to move ahead quicker.  Imagine if I hiked faster than my ability, I’d probably be hunched over a rock someplace lower down trying to catch my breath and feeling too exhausted to make it to the tea house.

#Himalayas #Trekking #Bluesky #Nepal #snow #TheBrazenAdventuress #Adventure #Mountains

Living in a world of rush, I couldn’t understand how slow actually got you somewhere. In our western world, fast equates to being first, getting somewhere, or doing something for optimal results Going slow on the other hand usually equates to not getting anywhere or getting anything done. It made me reexamine what slow really means. I could certainly think of more than a few times that I was late, and with my rushing, only slowed me down because I made mistakes or forgot something. There were times when I went too fast or did too much, only to burn myself out and feel frazzled at the end.

As someone that loves Buddhist philosophy and ways of living, I read and studied importance of mindfulness and focusing on the present. I remembered watching a documentary about Thich Nhat Hanh demonstrating the effectiveness of walking meditation and how to do this in our everyday life, not just as a meditation practice. He demonstrated this walking to different destinations in a city and showed how it is possible to be mindful and present even in a city getting from point A to B.  I remember thinking how incredible this was and how it would be amazing to be able to apply this to my life. I never fully grasp this concept and ability to be so fully present in each step until this day. I I like to call it slowing down to speed up. By slowing down our speed in our mind or physically, we are able to speeding up productivity, creativity, but also or amplifying enjoyment out of our experiences in life. It’s about knowing how to not just get through those busy days but in a way that you know you handle.

#Mt.AmaDablam #Nepal #Himalaya #TheBrazenAdventuress #trekking #snow #bluesky #mountains #adventure

In the end, the trip was not about the destination at all. It was about my experience, a trail, and a lesson I needed to learn. The base camp came as an exciting experience, but the true experience was the one I had on the trail.

How To Adventure In the Extreme Cold

It has been a crazy couple weeks with weather in New England. First we went through a couple weeks of temps in the single digits only warming up from tim to time to the double digits. Then fourteen inches of snow followed the next few days by negative temperatures, two days dipping down to -15 F.

If you don’t know what -15 F feels like, imagine walking into a large restaurant freezers, or even your own freezer, and then subtracting another fifteen degrees off of that, then take a big fan and start blowing the cold air towards you and there you have -15 with windchill.

Welcome to New England!

You may be wondering what the hell do you do when it is that cold other than hibernate and pray the pipes don’t burst from the cold.

Here is how to STILL get adventure into your life, even when it’s freezing out.

If you are crazy enough to want to actually get outdoors to adventure when it’s -15 F out, make sure you are properly dressed. This means, no cotton. Cotton gets cold and wet and doesn’t dry easily causing an increase in possible hypothermia.  Wear wool, polypro, cool dri, wick away material instead. Dress in layers, even face covered, and outer layer including shoes should be waterproof. Bring extra clothes with you.

Bring extra people with you. Don’t go alone in this extreme cold in case of an emergency. Always know where you are at all times and DO NOT deviate from the trail. Know where there is shelter along the route and let others know your route and when to expect you back to your car or home. Always carry an extreme weather emergency kit with you. Bring hot liquids with you to keep your insides warm and hydrated.

For those less inclined for outdoor adventure in this extreme cold, here’s how to still get in your adventures……

Get to your local climbing, crossfit, boxing gym. If you haven’t tried one of these before, an adventure could be trying a new type of workout for the first time. You can also give yoga, pilates, or HIIT workout in your own home if you don’t feel like heading out to a class.

Experiment with a new activity. This could be trying a new recipe, artistic creation or figuring out how to reorganize/declutter a room in your house. It could be even more adventurous by changing the wall color or rearranging a room.

Plan your next adventurous trip you want to take when the temperatures warm up. This could be a new trail to try at your local hiking spot or coming up and planning your dream adventurous vacation.

Read or watch an adventure movie. Touching The Void and The Mountain In Between are both suspenseful!

For the kids….

You can bring them with you to the climbing gym, or try yoga out at home together. Have a pillow fight, or make a pretend campfire in the living room. Turn off the lights and tell scary stories. Of course marshmellows and chocolate should be included. Come up with your own imaginary adventure with your kids. Maybe it is a trip to the jungle, climbing a mountain  or playing pirates (my son’s personal favorite).

Adventures don’t have to be just for the outdoors. There are many types of adventures and sometimes when it is hard to get outdoors, the most creative adventures can happen at home!

Keep Adventuring!

 

 

How To Adventure During Holidays

It is the time of year when a lot of us get busy with holiday and New Years plans.  When we get busy in life, this is the most important time to take care of ourselves and put aside time for adventure. It helps us clear our minds, become energized and have some reflection time. 

We can fit in adventure when things are so busy, when we are visiting or are visited by friends and family.

Here’s how! 

Talk to your friends and family and see if they want to go out with you for a walk, hike, snowshoe. It’s best to talk to them ahead of time to have the activity as something that you all want to do instead of suggesting it last minute when things are already really busy. Planning ahead can make the activity more of a priority.

Go early in the day. We all know that we may have the best of intentions to set out for that outdoor activity during the day, even when we have it planned into our day. BUT, then inevitably something comes up and it thwarts our plan and then before you know it, it’s evening and your adventure never happened. When we get up and go, we will have more likelihood of getting in your outdoor activity. Even waking up 20 minutes early can help with this, and can make a huge difference in how your day goes! Then you’re not having to worry about the crunch of trying to fit it in midday.

Add a tradition to your family or friend get together. Perhaps they would also like a New Years day hike, but never really thought about it. By you suggesting it, you have become the catalyst for getting more people out for adventures. It’s something new that you can all share together that brings you closer. It may also become more than a new years tradition. It maybe is something you all do on a more regular basis. 

Make it time limited. When things are so busy, and then you bring up about going out for a hike, the initial answer may be “no” because it feels like there’s no time. If you say, let’s go for a hike for a half hour then this may seem more plausible and realistic when things are busy. 

Switch out an activity and replace it with an outdoor activity. If the idea is to go to the mall, or a movie, try suggesting a hike instead with hot chocolate after. Sometimes it is easy to get into routines, but when suggesting something new to do, it can prompt change. The change may be more enjoyable than the original plan. 

Give some of these a try to get more adventure into your holiday season or even during a busy time. 

Keep Adventuring!

Kristin

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Fears Keeping You Down? Here's How To Dream Big!


As we near the end of the year, most of us start taking inventory of how the year went and what we would like to do better with in the next year. Today I want to talk all about how to finally, once and for all, get over the fears you may have and start embarking on some of your dreams for your life. 

It is important to remember that fear acts as the overprotective friend that wants to keep us safe. Fear doesn’t want anything bad or dangerous to happen to us. That is all very nice, BUT when we listen and follow what fear is saying to us, we will never move forward in our lives. If we can think about fear as this overprotective friend, it will help to take some of the power out of the fear and see it for what it is. It will also help take away some of the stigma around fear.

What would you say to an overprotective friend?? Would you listen to that friend all the time? Would you tell that friend to F@#$ off? Or, would you say thank you for trying to help me stay safe, but I also need to listen to what is right for myself? I think most friends would probably respond well to the third option. 

Once you’ve been able to acknowledge that fear is coming up around something you want to do, it is much easier to get on with the process of starting to make some positive changes for yourself. Often the acknowledging can be the scariest and hardest part of this whole thing. 

Look at your dream in terms of manageable steps. It would be too scary for most of us to go from one reality in our lives to another immediately. We would never make the changes we would want if it happened this way. Look at what you want and come up with a plan on how to start breaking down this goal into parts that you can manage. They may be a little out of your comfort zone, and maybe a little scary, but that’s ok. This is how we grow as people! It’s all about taking one small perhaps uncomfortable step out of your comfort zone to get to where you want to go. Even if you take three steps back, it is never failure. It’s always learning. Sometimes our big dream is all about the learning that goes into making it happen! Keep learning and dreaming!

What’s your dream? How are you planning to work through the fears to make it happen? I’d love to hear from you!



Prioritize Yourself and Your Adventures

 

With the holiday season starting next week, this is the perfect time to be talking about how we can still get out for adventures, do some of the things we love, and best of all, not feel guilty about it. It is so easy for most of us to get caught up in all there is to do around holiday season. I know I’m guilty!

This is why the time the new year roles around, we are exhausted. We’ve overeaten, especially on so many goodies. Yum! We’ve run from store to store, stayed up late and slept little. We are left feeling depleted. 

You deserve to be a priority in your life, no matter what! 

Even in the most busy times of the year it the most important time to prioritize ourselves and get outside. You are probably thinking, this is nearly impossible. Well, I’m here to tell you that it isn’t impossible.

Here’s why! 

When you prioritize yourself, even in the most busy times, you are setting yourself up for a successful day. When we get outdoors, we are more energized, we have more clarity and are more decisive in our decision making. This helps our day’s to go by smoother, less stress filled, and enjoying the important moments instead of running around like a crazy lady. 

Here’s how to make it happen! 

Create a game plan. Plan out your week. Then decide on how to prioritize yourself getting into the outdoors. When we look at the week as a whole, it can be easier to figure out how each of our days will look. This is when we can commit to the number of times you will get outdoors.

The night before, look at your next day, and find twenty minutes in your day, even if you have to block it out. Decide ahead of time what activity you are going to do and how you are going to make it happen. Does it mean you wake up a half-hour earlier, or take your workout clothes to work with you. Is there a place you can stop to, from or enroute to one of your many destinations? Make a plan and stick to it! 

Decide on priorities. Does EVERYTHING on your to do list NEED to get done? What is one thing that you could set aside so you can get in some outdoor activity? 

How can you make some of the tasks less time consuming? Can you go to only one store instead of three? Can you order online? Don’t forget to ask for help! This is a big one. We often think we need to take it all on. We don’t! No matter what is coming up for you around why you HAVE to, it doesn’t need to be. Decide on who can help and ask!

Say “NO”! Pick carefully to who and what you will say “YES” to. If you don’t have time or even don’t want to take more on, maybe they can figure out a way to get it done, or someone else less busy can help. Just because someone asks, doesn’t mean that you have to take it on. It is ok to say “no”, so if you’re going to jeopardize your twenty minutes you put aside for yourself, make sure it’s a necessity!

Giving yourself the extra twenty minutes in your day to get outdoors will help to make your whole day, and holiday season go by more joyously. Keep adventuring!

Happy Thanksgiving!


 

 

 

Finding Myself Through Racing

Competition for me started at an early age of two. Yes, I “ran” my first road race at the age of two. I grew up in a household where my father was a professional marathoner, and I wanted to take after my father in this way.  The challenge for me was that I was not a natural runner. I was nowhere near having the natural running ability as my father.  I loved running, but wasn’t great at it.

There was pressure I put on myself to be faster. This pressure lead to many self-doubts to the point that I started making excuses for why I couldn’t race on a Saturday after a great week of training runs.  I was horrified by what people would think about my place, times, speed. I didn’t want to be judged or laughed at.  This battle of not wanting to race, but wanting to run stayed with me throughout high school.

In the middle of my running debacle, I actually became injured.  I legitimately could not run. I wanted to stay in shape, so I started rowing. An unlikely sport for someone that is only five feet, but one that to this day I love. I love everything about the early morning stillness of the water, the gliding motion, the strength of the body to move the boat. This was MY sport.  And surprisingly, I became quite good at it. I was a much better rower than runner. I began consistently coming in the top three at at regattas. I rowed for a division one school, varsity as a freshman. All the old fears fell away and I felt on top of my game. I felt like I could take on any competition and was excited to do so.

It wasn’t until one race that all the fear started flooding back. It was an endurance, half-marathon regatta. I was on top of this race. I was again the third in line after two Olympians, consistently throughout the race, until mile 11. I hit the wall. I bonked. There was nothing left in the tank. I quickly slowed, barely able to push my legs back, barely picking up any water with the oars. The water became too heavy to move. I rowed feebly getting the strokes in as best I could, but one by one people started to pass. As I sat there in my scull, all the old feelings of failure, not being enough, being judged rushed back to me. Embarrassment swept over me as I reached the shore. I quietly shuffled away but continued to be caught in my own web of self-doubt. I was able to push down all these old feelings after a couple more successful regattas. I thought I was over my internal hangups about competing.

Fast forward a number of years later when I signed up to go to the Everest Base Camp.  This would be my biggest challenge to date. I was excited, but also not sure what to expect due to the length and altitude of this trip. I was pleasantly surprised by the laid back attitude of everyone on the trip. Up until this point, I was only used to competitive environments. It wasn’t used to doing something physically demanding all while talking and joking along the way. I loved it!

It was on one in day in particular that was tough for me, that I was able to let go of my proverbial backpack in the himalayas.  I couldn’t seem to get in enough oxygen and was falling behind the group. The difference was that this time, I felt totally supported. I didn’t feel like anyone was judging me. In fact, I didn’t think anyone really cared about my performance. They just cared about me, as a person. This experience was a complete game changer for me. I was able to see what getting out of your comfort zone and pushing yourself was really about. It wasn’t about my place, or time. It was about me performing at my best, to my potential. It was about looking at what I am made of, and breaking through barriers I didn’t think I could. It was about getting gutsy, empowered and determined to reach to my personal best, even breaking through potential and raising the bar on what I am truly capable of doing. I felt a freedom I never experienced in any of my racing, and yet, I was doing something even more challenging than any of my races. I realized that it really has always been about and is about how to grow as a person and what I learn about myself through the challenge. I found this part of me in the himalayas.

I returned home with a complete change in how I view my performance, and how I view myself in performance. I now no longer go into a race looking at my time or being stressed about my time. Instead, I focus on what why I’m racing and what I want to get out of the race that is going to lead me to heighten and challenge my capabilities as a person. It is about the takeaway from a challenge that counts. It’s about continually growing and improving on who I am as a person, for myself and everyone around me. It’s about changing for the better and creating positive change in the world around us.

Deepening into the Up

 

When I decided to sign up for the Everest Base Camp trek, I had no idea what I was getting into. I loved hiking, backpacking, being out in the woods for days, and this had it all, including the elusive visit to base camp. This trip was an obvious choice.

#Himalayas #Nepal #trekking #hiking #TheBrazenAdventuress #snow #clouds #Adventure

 

Living and mostly growing up in the northeast, I did a lot of hiking, but never in altitude. I had never been hiking out west in the bigger mountains. I had no idea what it felt like, or how my body would handle the high altitude. To top it off, it turns out that I am highly allergic to all high altitude medication, which all includes some form of Sulfa.  I was certainly concerned about this, but wasn’t going to let a little altitude stop me!

So, on I went to Nepal. The low lying, tropical area that Kathmandu sits, was a complete facade to what I was to expect in the himalayas. By the looks of Kathmandu, I was thinking, “Hey, this isn’t looking bad from here.” It wasn’t until we were up in the air on our way to Lukla, did I realize what I had actually gotten myself into. There was a lot of second guessing my decision for the trip, when I realized the mountains were higher than what we were flying, and we would be trekking higher than the plane was flying. It was too late to turn around. Onwards and upwards we went. Our group joked that there is no such thing as down hill in Nepal. I think this must be true!

#Nepal #Himalaya #DudhKosiRiver #river #rushingwater #bridge #TheBrazenAdventuress

As we started to hike, nerves and trepidation started to take over. I was scared. I didn’t know if I could actually do this. The modest mountains of the northeast couldn’t even come close to the height we were trekking. I thought I prepared physically, but I then thought, maybe I should have prepared more.

Trekking in the higher altitude came with less oxygen, slower pace, and more frequent stops.  Each stopping point gave us a greater view of how low we actually were and how much higher we had to go.

#Himalayas #clouds #blue sky #Nepal #TheBrazenAdventuress #Trekking #hiking #adventure #mountains #snow

Trekking Above The Clouds

 

As the air became thinner, our walking (and talking of course!) became slower. Our pace slowed to what seemed a crawl. I had no idea I could actually walk this slow. On one of our many rest breaks, our guide had pointed upwards to where we were going to stop for lunch. It was about three hill traverses upward. The distance seemed like it would take us all day at best.

As we started up the trail, the slow pace rhythmic pace, combined with my breathing created a quiet within me, one I had not known before.  There were no more hills to traverse. It was only my body, legs and breath all working as one. I was able to quiet my mind, and relax into the rhythm. Each step and breath turned into an invitation to go deeper within myself. The hills and the walking meditation turned into a parrabel for a new way of living my life. A new way of seeing myself and a new way of listening to myself.

#Mt.Everest #Bluesky #snow #mountain #mountaineering #himalayas #Nepal #Adventure #TheBrazenAdventuress

Snow blowing off Mt. Everest

The “backpack” I had been carrying through my life of expectations of being the first, best, fastest, had been let go of on the trail. I realized that I didn’t need to be any of these things to just be me, and being me was perfect. There was nothing that I need to be or prove to myself or to anyone else to feel free and happy. My view shifted inwards to wanting to experience more joy for myself. I realized life isn’t all about the hard run to the top, and I was actually loving my slow rhythmic pace. I laughed more, I saw more, I listened more, I was more me by going slower. My biggest mountain, bigger than the trek was realizing that the “mountains” in life are just a walk to deepen ourselves into the person we truly are.

 

 

 

 

As we got going, there was a lot of the usual huffing and puffing up steep trails, and then stops to admire the amazing views all around us, then more huffing and puffing. This ritual continued  for a couple days. At the point where we entered into true high altitude, high altitude pills were taken and confidences boosted. I wasn’t sure what this part of the trek meant for me.

Clarity In Silence

Yesterday my son and I took a hike in the woods near our house. I strapped him into his backpack carrier, and off we went. It was a beautiful day. Barely a cloud in the sky, and sunny! It was quiet in the woods, partly due to the Patriots play off game that would be starting in an hour. Yes, we did get home in time for the game.

As I walked with my son on my back, It was quiet and peaceful in the woods. The only sound was from the crunching of leaves, some snow underfoot, and the sound of some brave birds toughing out the winter. As we walked along, I came to a part of the trail that was glistening from the sun. It made me stop. I stood at the brink of the sun hitting the trail and then moved into the light. The power of the light, the quietness and having my life on my back overpowered me.

I was overcome by gratitude and love at the present moment. It is moments like these that make me really contemplate my life and makes every decision I need to make, every challenge, struggle seem so clear and precise as to what to do. I am clear in my focus and clear in my understanding of my life. This moment gives me direction, peace, and purpose as to how I want to direct my life.

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